Why the new concept of push presents has been so misrepresented.
This goes out to anyone interested in gaining the know-all about Push Gifts, the full on true story. ALL ANGLES. Anyone unfamiliar with the concept please read!
A “push gift” is any type of present loved ones give to a woman who has recently given birth to a child. The name “push gift” although indicative of a vaginal delivery does not exclude those women who have given birth through a C-section. Ladies, those of you who have gone through a C-section, don’t worry, the term still implies to you. The concept of a push gift is what counts, not the name itself which is a bit silly and tacky but that’s alright.
A push gift represents Love, Appreciation and Gratitude.
Women, you are bringing a child into the world for your husbands, partners, family members, and loved ones! And you’re going through the emotionally and physically exhausting experience of pregnancy to do so. That is why the push gift was created. Not as a type of reward for “prize” at the end of a long labor or difficult birth but as a token of appreciation by your loved ones to show you that they appreciate you “sacrificing your body” and going through all the ups and downs of pregnancy in order to bring the light of your child into the world and into their lives.
I mean, if it was my husband going through all that to give me the gift of life I would want to show him how much I cared. I’d be showering him with lavish gifts to show him how much I love him and how much gratitude I feel towards his sacrifice.
A Push gift is usually given after delivery in the hospital or upon returning home with your new bundle of joy. It can be anything really: a gadget, practical tool, clothes. But most often its jewelry, and I mean diamonds are a girl’s best friends, are they not?
There are tons of options out there but honestly, this is such an important occasion that really does call for a unique gift.
I recently came across this collection of jewelry while searching the internet with my sisters fiancé for a push gift for her. As soon as we understood what the product symbolized we were onboard 100 % (My sister LOVED it, she actually cried when he gave it to her! She’s such a sensitive being, a heart of gold she has.)
Anyways, the reason why she loved it so much is because not only is it luxury diamond jewelry but it also has a story to share. It’s called the Juno Lucina Collection and basically the jewelry represents the ancient tradition of loved ones calling upon the Roman goddess of childbirth, Juno Lucina, to protect the mother and her newborn baby in their lives ahead. Obviously this piece of jewelry which is designed to represent the goddess cradling of the heads of the mother and newborn is only given as a push gift. That is what makes it so special! (However, don’t confuse it with some sort of lucky amulet, it doesn’t have any magical powers nor will it protect you, it only symbolizes the protection that loved ones wished for women giving birth)
Not only does it have a tangible story and continues a 1,000 year old tradition, but it is unique. No one will give you that gift for Valentine’s Day or your birthday. Other gifts can and are given for those occasions and others as well. That is why I really think it’s the ideal gift!
Now let me dabble in some controversy…
There have been so many times where I’ve seen references to push presents in the media: On TLC’s “A Baby Story”, The Housewives of NJ, the movie “Marley and Me”, even an article in the New York Times. But when I saw most ALL of these articles/episodes, the way the push gift is represented is absolutely awful. These people only focus on one side: that of the demanding, materialistic, snobby new mom who expects and feels like she deserves a shiny new trinket as reward for the birth of her child. Honestly, reading that and seeing such behavior offended me greatly. Men today are so much more in touch with the women’s “plight”, if I may, during pregnancy and give those gifts out of guilt as a sort of payment. This shouldn’t be the case; these gifts should be given out of love!
Let me just put this out there and clear up the air once and for all. I don’t agree that a woman should DEMAND a push gift because she deserves a gift after pushing that watermelon out. I mean come on, the baby is the gift! But, if a loved one wants to show their appreciation and love… How thoughtful is that?! It’s a sweet sweet gesture and no doubt will warm your heart. And all I’m saying is that there is an enormous difference between the gift being demanded because “he owes me” and the gift being given if they feel they want to show their love and appreciation for you. And if they do (which a good husband, partner or loved one ought to) there is no better gift then one with symbolic meaning (Juno Lucina!).